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      GLOSSARY

      as much as the next guy – just like other people; a phrase used to emphasize
      that one’s preferences or behaviors are normal
      * I like sports as much as the next guy, but don’t you think it’s crazy for the team
      to practice that much?

      to own (someone) – to be in control of another person, especially controlling
      what that person does, with whom, and when, so that the other person feels the
      need to report to that person
      * Sure, it would be nice if your adult son did whatever you asked him to, but he’s
      an individual and you don’t own him.

      possessive – wanting to have something only for oneself and not being willing to
      share it with others
      * Don’t touch anything in Brenda’s office! She’s really possessive and she’ll
      notice if anything gets moved.

      to put (one’s) foot down – to be very assertive and strong, clearly indicating the
      limit of something or clearly stating that something will not be tolerated
      * I’ll put my foot down if I ever see any illegal activity at work.

      clingy – wanting to be very close to another person, even when it makes the
      other person annoyed or comfortable; not able to be alone and away from
      someone
      * At first, Mike seemed nice, but as they continued dating, Alexandra began to
      realize how clingy he was.

      jealous – with negative feelings of suspicion that another person will be
      unfaithful or not loyal
      * Some of Amy’s best friends are men, and her new boyfriend becomes jealous
      when she spends time with them.

      so much as – even; in a particular way, especially when referring to a small or
      inconsequential amount of something
      * Emmett is so shy, he won’t so much as look at any of his coworkers when
      talking to them.

      to reassure – to do or say something to help another person feel more
      comfortable or confident
      * Let me reassure you that all the personal health information provided on these
      forms will be kept confidential.

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      critical – saying bad things about other people while judging what they do or say
      or how they appear
      * Theodore was really critical of the restaurant, but I thought the food was pretty
      good.

      to report in – to check in with someone periodically; to provide an update to
      another person so that he or she can monitor progress and be aware of what is
      happening
      * All the field employees are asked to report in to the supervisor at least once a
      week, so that we can keep track of their progress and address any problems.

      whereabouts – where one is; one’s location
      * The police are monitoring the suspect’s whereabouts, hoping to find clues
      related to the recent murder.

      controlling – wanting to make decisions about another person’s actions; being
      in charge of what another person does, as well as when and how
      * The new boss is really controlling, and some of the more independent
      employees are having a hard time adapting to her management style.

      update – the most recent information about something; information about the
      current status
      * They have a weekly meeting to provide updates about their work.

      sweet – kind, caring, considerate, and attractive, often used to talk about little
      children and women
      * It’s so sweet of you to bring cookies for your coworkers!

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      COMPREHENSION QUESTIONS

      1. What does Matt mean when he says, “I put my foot down when she gets too
      clingy”?
      a) He threatens to leave the relationship.
      b) He runs out of the room.
      c) He tells her to stop what she’s doing.

      2. What kind of text message does Matt need to send to Helen?
      a) He needs to tell her where he is and what he’s doing.
      b) He needs to send her a message to cheer her up.
      c) He needs to invite her to join the group.

      ______________

      WHAT ELSE DOES IT MEAN?

      controlling
      The word “controlling,” in this podcast, means wanting to make decisions about
      another person’s actions, and being in charge of what another person does:
      “Gregorio’s parents are really controlling, making all the decisions about what
      activities he participates in and even what he wears.” A “control freak” is an
      uptight person who becomes panicked and worried if unexpected things happen:
      “Purina is a control freak who planned every detail of her wedding.” The phrase
      “birth control” refers to contraception, or efforts to prevent pregnancy: “At what
      age do you think teenagers should learn about birth control?” Finally, “cruise
      control” is a setting on a vehicle that maintains a constant speed without the
      driver needing to do anything: “Drivers can get better gas mileage if they use
      cruise control on the freeway.”

      sweet
      In this podcast, the word “sweet” means kind, caring, considerate, and attractive,
      often used to talk about little children and women: “Karina is a very sweet
      woman, but she isn’t a very good decision-maker.” The phrase “a sweet deal”
      describes a good bargain or a profitable transaction: “I can’t believe we bought
      that car for just $1,000. What a sweet deal!” The phrase “to have a sweet tooth”
      means to enjoy sweet, sugary foods: “Lyle has a sweet tooth and would love to
      eat chocolate all day long.” Finally, the old-fashioned phrase “to be sweet on
      (someone)” means to have a crush on someone or to be interested in someone
      romantically: “How will Rebena ever know you’re sweet on her if you don’t ask
      her out on a date?”

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      CULTURE NOTE

      No-Fault Divorces

      In the past, Americans who wanted to get a “divorce” (the legal end of a
      marriage) had to “prove” (demonstrate; show) “wrongdoing” (bad behavior) by
      one of the two people in the marriage. This created an “adversarial” (as enemies;
      not friendly) relationship between the two people who wanted to get a divorce
      and further “soured” (made unpleasant and bad) an already bad situation. For
      example, a husband or wife might have to prove that the “spouse” (husband or
      wife) had been “unfaithful” (involved in a sexual relationship with someone else).
      However, if that spouse replied that the other person had also been unfaithful,
      the court could “find” (legally conclude) that both parties had engaged in
      wrongdoing, and therefore not “grant” (allow) the divorce.

      Beginning in 1970, U.S. states began to pass laws that “provided for” (allowed)
      “no-fault divorces” in which there was no requirement to prove wrongdoing.
      Today, all 50 states “have provisions for” (allow) no-fault divorces. This makes it
      easier for spouses to get a divorce, because they can state that they no longer
      want to be married, without “blaming” (being mad at and identifying as the source
      of a problem) the spouse.

      In some cases, spouses can “claim” (state as a reason) “irreconcilable
      differences” as the reason for their divorce. “Irreconcilable differences” are things
      on which the spouses cannot agree, or differences that make them
      “incompatible” (not able to continue living with each other as husband and wife).
      Irreconcilable differences would be things that at least one spouse is unable or
      unwilling to change in order to “save the marriage” (avoid divorce).

      ______________

      Comprehension Questions Correct Answers: 1 – c; 2 – a

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      COMPLETE TRANSCRIPT

      Welcome to English as a Second Language Podcast number 955 – Dating a
      Possessive Person.

      This is English as a Second Language Podcast episode 955. I’m your host, Dr.
      Jeff McQuillan, coming to you from the Center for Educational Development in
      beautiful Los Angeles, California.

      Our website is ESLPod.com. Become a member of ESL Podcast today. If you
      do, you can download a Learning Guide for this episode, an eight- to ten-page
      guide that contains a complete transcript of everything I say.

      This episode is a dialogue between Eliana and Matt about dating a possessive
      person. Let’s get started.

      [start of dialogue]

      Eliana: You’re here! I didn’t think you’d be able to come.

      Matt: Why? I like seeing a movie with my friends as much as the next guy.

      Eliana: Yeah, but it’s been weeks since we’ve seen you, ever since you started
      dating Helen.

      Matt: She doesn’t own me. She’s a little possessive, but I put my foot down when
      she gets too clingy.

      Eliana: Doesn’t she get jealous if you so much as look at another woman?

      Matt: She’s the jealous type, that’s true, but I reassure her all the time that she’s
      the only one I want. It’s true that she’s critical of other women, too, but what
      woman isn’t? She’s fine if she knows where I am and whom I’m with.

      Eliana: You mean you have to report in to her on your whereabouts?

      Matt: She likes to know what I’m doing. She’s just concerned about me, that’s all.

      Eliana: She seems really controlling.

      Matt: What did you say?

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      Eliana: Nothing. I see Xavier and Sophie over there. Ready to get our tickets?

      Matt: Hold on one second. I just need to text Helen an update. If she doesn’t hear
      from me every half hour, she worries. Isn’t that sweet?

      [end of dialogue]

      This episode is all about “dating” (dating). “To date” means to see someone
      romantically – to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. This is done before you get
      married. Once you get married, we don’t talk about dating. We don’t talk about
      anything, really, once you get married . . . no, I’m just kidding. “Dating” is seeing
      someone you are romantically interested in.

      Eliana begins by saying to Matt, “You’re here! I didn’t think you’d be able to
      come” – I didn’t think you’d be able to come to wherever Eliana is. Matt says,
      “Why? I like seeing a movie with my friends as much as the next guy.” So, now
      we learn that Matt and Eliana are apparently outside of or inside of a movie
      theater, and that they are friends. You see how much we can learn in just a few
      words.

      Matt says he likes seeing a movie as much as the next guy. That expression, “as
      much as the next guy,” means “just like other people.” It’s a phrase we use to
      emphasize that what you do, or what you like to do, is normal. It’s what everyone
      else does as well. Eliana says, “Yeah, but it’s been weeks since we’ve seen you,
      ever since you started dating Helen.” Now we learn that Matt is dating a girl by
      the name of Helen.

      Matt says, “She doesn’t own me.” When someone says, “She doesn’t own me,”
      he’s probably lying, but he means, “That person doesn’t control me.” My girlfriend
      doesn’t control me. She doesn’t tell me what I have to do. I don’t listen to what
      she says. Again, this is completely imaginary. This would never actually happen
      in the real world. But Matt is saying that his girlfriend doesn’t own him.

      He says, “She’s a little possessive.” “To be possessive” (possessive) means to
      want to have something only for yourself. You don’t want to share it with anyone
      else. “To be possessive” means to want to have something and not have anyone
      else have it. If you are possessive of another person, you may not like that other
      person talking to friends or family members instead of you.

      That is sometimes a problem. In fact, it’s usually a problem if a person is very
      possessive, what we might describe as “overly possessive.” Of course, you have
      to be possessive at some level – to some extent, a little bit – about a person that

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      you love. You want them to spend time with you more than they spend time with
      other people.

      Matt says, “I put my foot down when she gets too clingy.” The expression “to put
      your foot (foot) down” means to be very assertive, to clearly indicate what you
      are willing to do or not willing to do. You might say, for example, “If I see anyone
      not doing their work, I’m going to put my foot down and tell you to go home and
      take all your stuff with you. You’re fired.” “I’m going to put my foot down” – I’m
      going to be very strong and assertive. I’m going to say, “This is the law, this is the
      rule, and if you don’t follow it, you are out.”

      Matt is saying that he’s putting his foot down. He’s being strong and assertive
      with his girlfriend whenever she gets too clingy. The adjective “clingy” (clingy)
      comes from the verb “to cling” (cling). “To cling” is to hold on to something tightly.
      “To be clingy” is to want to be with another person so much that the other person
      may get annoyed or bothered; the other person may not like you being that close
      to them or wanting to be close to them all the time.

      Eliana says, “Doesn’t she get jealous if you so much as look at another woman?”
      “Jealous” (jealous) is when you have negative feelings of suspicion. You think
      another person is not being faithful to you or loyal to you. If a woman sees her
      husband talking to another beautiful woman, she might get upset. She might be
      jealous. She may want the husband to come back and stop talking to the
      beautiful woman. The wife may think that her husband is perhaps interested
      romantically in this other woman, and therefore doesn’t want him talking to her.
      That might be actually true. So, you know, sometimes being jealous is a good
      thing.

      However, here Eliana says that Matt’s girlfriend, Helen, gets jealous if Matt so
      much as looks at another woman. When we use the expression “so much as,” we
      mean – especially when referring to, usually, referring to something that doesn’t
      seem very important – that it’s a very small action that shouldn’t cause the
      person to get angry. If a mother says to her children, “Don’t eat this cake. If you
      so much as take one piece, I’m going to send you to your rooms without dinner” –
      you won’t get to eat tonight.

      Kind of a mean mom, but you understand what she’s saying. She doesn’t want
      the children taking the cake. If they eat so much as one piece – even if they only
      eat one piece – she will punish them. She will send them to their room without
      their dinner. Probably not a good idea, but it certainly does happen.

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      Matt says, “She’s the jealous type,” meaning she’s the kind of person who gets
      jealous. Matt continues, “I reassure her all the time that she’s the only one I
      want.” “To reassure” (reassure) means to say something to someone to make
      them feel more confident or comfortable about a situation that they have doubts
      about. You’re trying to say to the other person, “Don’t worry. Everything ‘s okay.
      What I am telling you is true.” Matt tries to reassure Helen that Helen is the only
      one that Matt wants.

      Matt says, “It’s true that she’s critical of other women, too, but what woman isn’t?”
      “To be critical” (critical) means to say negative things about another person – to
      find errors, faults, or problems with what another person does or how another
      person acts or behaves. The verb is “to criticize.” Matt says his girlfriend is critical
      of other women, “but what woman isn’t?” meaning all women are critical of other
      women. I guess that’s what he’s saying. I’m not saying that. Please don’t email
      me and complain. Email Matt.

      Matt continues, “She’s fine if she knows where I am and whom I’m with.” The
      girlfriend doesn’t get jealous if she knows where Matt is all the time, or at least
      she doesn’t worry as much. Eliana says, “You mean you have to report in to her
      on your whereabouts?” “To report in” means to contact someone and tell them
      what you are doing, usually so that person can monitor your progress. It’s
      something you would do if you’re an employee with your boss. You might report
      in if you are traveling somewhere for your company, to tell your boss what you
      were doing. The idea of reporting in has with it the notion that the person you are
      reporting in to somehow has authority or control over you.

      “Whereabouts” (whereabouts) is where you are. “Whereabouts” is all one word.
      It’s where you are located right now. The police often use this word in trying to
      find a person who is missing or who has perhaps committed a crime, has broken
      the law. “We don’t know the whereabouts of this person” – we don’t know where
      this person is. Matt says his girlfriend likes to know what he’s doing. “She’s just
      concerned about me, that’s all,” Matt says.

      Eliana says, “She seems really controlling.” “To be controlling” means to want to
      make all of the decisions for another person, to want to decide what the other
      person is going to do – to be in charge of another person. That’s to be controlling.
      It’s almost always considered a negative thing. Matt says, “What did you say?”
      Eliana says, “Nothing.” Matt didn’t hear exactly what Eliana was saying, or
      perhaps he didn’t like what she was saying.

      Sometimes, if you don’t like what someone has said, especially if they are
      insulting you or saying something critical about you or someone you love, you

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      might pretend as though you didn’t hear them: “Excuse me, what did you say?”
      You’re basically telling the person to repeat what they said because you want to
      make sure that you heard it correctly, usually because it was something you
      didn’t like.

      Eliana, however, doesn’t repeat what she says. Instead, she changes the
      subject. She decides to stop talking about this issue. She says, “I see Xavier and
      Sophie over there. Ready to get our tickets?” Matt says, “Hold on one second,”
      meaning wait just a few seconds. “I just need to text Helen an update.” “To text”
      someone means to send them a message, usually with your phone. An “update”
      (update) is the most recent information about something, the latest news about
      something.

      Matt says if his girlfriend doesn’t hear from him – doesn’t receive some sort of
      message from him – every half hour, every 30 minutes, she worries. “Isn’t that
      sweet?” “Sweet” (sweet) here means kind or caring or considerate. Matt thinks
      it’s sweet that his girlfriend wants him to give her updates every 30 minutes about
      what he’s doing. He thinks it’s a nice thing. It shows that she loves him, which
      she probably does. But it sounds as though she might be a little possessive.

      Now let’s listen to the dialogue, this time at a normal speed.

      [start of dialogue]

      Eliana: You’re here! I didn’t think you’d be able to come.

      Matt: Why? I like seeing a movie with my friends as much as the next guy.

      Eliana: Yeah, but it’s been weeks since we’ve seen you, ever since you started
      dating Helen.

      Matt: She doesn’t own me. She’s a little possessive, but I put my foot down when
      she gets too clingy.

      Eliana: Doesn’t she get jealous if you so much as look at another woman?

      Matt: She’s the jealous type, that’s true, but I reassure her all the time that she’s
      the only one I want. It’s true that she’s critical of other women, too, but what
      woman isn’t? She’s fine if she knows where I am and whom I’m with.

      Eliana: You mean you have to report in to her on your whereabouts?

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      Matt: She likes to know what I’m doing. She’s just concerned about me, that’s all.

      Eliana: She seems really controlling.

      Matt: What did you say?

      Eliana: Nothing. I see Xavier and Sophie over there. Ready to get our tickets?

      Matt: Hold on one second. I just need to text Helen an update. If she doesn’t hear
      from me every half hour, she worries. Isn’t that sweet?

      [end of dialogue]

      We’re never critical of our scriptwriter. That’s because she’s a wonderful
      scriptwriter and there’s nothing to be critical of. I speak, of course, of the
      wonderful Dr. Lucy Tse.

      From Los Angeles, California, I’m Jeff McQuillan. Thank you for listening. Come
      back and listen to us again right here on ESL Podcast.

      English as a Second Language Podcast was written and produced by Dr. Lucy
      Tse, hosted by Dr. Jeff McQuillan. Copyright 2013 by the Center for Educational
      Development.

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